Are you conscious of the emotions that you are experiencing throughout the day, and their impact? Awareness of emotions allows you to deal with them and process your emotions in the way that you choose. This is known as emotional intelligence.
Take this quiz and see how emotionally astute you are.
UC Berkely’s Greater Good Science Center, together with Hopelab have compiled many scientific studies, to investigate and improve mental and social health. We created our quiz, loosely based on the ideas presented by the Greater Good Science Center, to bring these ideas together for you. Below we present more ideas about recognising emotions.
Is Your Emotional Intelligence Higher Than Those Around You?
Do you express or hide your emotions?
Emotional intelligence is something we deal with on a day to day basis. Our knowledge has an influence on our reactions to our surroundings and to our sense of well-being. The astute businessman attempts to keep emotions bottled beneath the surface. He brings the mask down and clamps any possible reaction that could be embarrassing for him. In the twenty-first century, emotions such as anger or pride are deemed to be socially unacceptable.
Psychologists query how healthy this is for the individual.
The muscles in your face, around the eyes, mouth and nose, as well as the position of your neck reveal which emotion you are experiencing. The muscle movement sends a signal to others as to whether you are feeling: shame; contempt; disgust; embarrassment; desire; love; flirtatiousness; empathy; anger or surprise.
How connected socially are you to those around you?
Some people are so wrapped up in themselves that they are unable to break out and relate to others. If you meet a friend who is sad, do you pay attention to their emotional state and empathise with them? Or are you busy thinking of your Sunday lunch dinner, which food you can make that will be impressive, and which guest will you invite to improve your social status? Perhaps you are thinking of which film you can put on that will be pleasurable for you. But are you simultaneously thinking of the people around you?
Ability to interact with your co-workers and friends will lead to long term, fulfilling relationships as opposed to living in your private world. Although living based on your personal desires is satisfying in the short run, you may eventually find yourself living as a hermit, even though you are surrounded by other people. You will find that you lack meaningful relationships as your thoughts are focused on self-aggrandizement.
Different Emotions and What They Mean
To help you increase your emotional intelligence, we will explore several emotions, and look at the impact they can have on us:
Emotional intelligence lesson: Anger is a part of everyday living. The average person will become angry many times during his lifetime. Controlled anger is acceptable; uncontrolled anger signifies a serious problem. To break a glass by hurling it against a wall to hear a resounding thud, with the tinkle of shards of glass dropping to the floor is a spectacular show. But if that is your reaction following a secretary accidentally putting a call through to the wrong employee, or by a coffee requested arriving a couple of minutes late, this signifies that the anger is blown out of proportion and beyond control.
Emotional intelligence lesson: Embarrassment is an uncomfortable feeling. We feel embarrassment when we fall short of expectations. These expectations can be our own, or expectations we feel imposed upon us by another person. It is a personal choice to allow expectations or perceived expectations of others to affect us.
A positive aspect of embarrassment is that it will cause you to think twice before making the same mistake again, as the brain remembers the uncomfortable feeling of embarrassment and attempts to avoid it.
Sometimes we think others are looking at us, and realising our mistakes. In reality, however, most people are busy thinking about things that involve themselves, and often do not pay attention to the action you did that caused you to feel embarrassed.
Some people look to ridicule, mock at and ostracize others. These are the sort of people you might like to keep your distance from if you are composed of a more sensitive nature. Sensitive souls who experience scorn could feel very pained from such negative attention.
Emotional intelligence lesson: Fear is an emotion we feel when we feel threatened. A typical reaction to fear would be that adrenalin level increases, and we look to escape from the situation. A person should react like this if faced with a lion, or a snake that has venous glands containing deadly poison.
Flight from the situation may not help, although the reaction is correct. A lion can easily outrun a human being, and a snake can accurately shoot its venom even across great distances.
We can feel fear from everyday situations as well, such as many people fear embarrassment or fear repercussions of not earning enough to pay for their monthly expenses. Some people fear spiders, or mice, or feeling claustrophobic. There are those who will avoid entering a lift for fear that it will get stuck, or avoid being in a high place as they suffer from fear of heights.
Emotional intelligence lesson: A parent loves a child unconditionally; however much anguish the child will cause the parent, no parent wants to disown their child, in a normal and healthy functioning relationship. This love results from giving so much to the child, and also of viewing the child as an extension of oneself.
Love is an emotion many people desire to attain while choosing a partner. The body goes through physical changes while experiencing love. Some confuse love with desire.
Love for a thick cheeseburger sandwich is on a lower level, while a higher level would be to love a spouse, despite their human defects.
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Emotional intelligence lesson: Shame is similar to embarrassment, although it is an emotion experienced when falling short of individual expectations and the cause for feeling the shame might not be apparent to an onlooker.
It is an internal feeling that might not lead to immediate action. Only an alert and aware individual might notice that you are feeling shame.